First off, I find it very hard to read your posts so I cannot be clear if I am understanding you correctly or not. Use some punctuation.
Clearly it was an accident but I don't wish to get in a discussion about that cause all I have is anecdotal versions of the story. But yeah, I think I am safe in saying that there was no intent on his part to slam your car.
As another poster said, I am sure he was a little scared by the entire thing. It pains me to think that your actions here might keep him from loving a wonderful hobby that he can share with his family and friends. As an ADULT, you could have taken the opportunity to teach him the proper response to this by approaching him and talking to him about it with his father present. Telling him how you felt and giving him a chance to appologize.
If I had hit your car by accident and saw flames I would have been frightened too! I would have been even more frightened as I watched you pick up your car and take it outside all the while "venting" about how some kid took a shot at your car.
Unfortunately, I think it is you who don't understand the situation. He is a kid, and at this point scared. He felt very bad, I am positive about this from what I know of him. I don't know that I would have had the courage to face a pissed off adult when I was a kid.
I think you may not know what a cheap shot is. Cheap shot implys malicious intent. He did not aim for your car and destroy it purposefully. It was an accident.
The cheap shot in this case would be the one you are taking at him. You say you don't want to name his name in your post. Just by not saying his "name" doesn't mean you aren't calling him out. You have missed an opportunity to be the adult here and teach him some race eiquette, on how to be a responsible racer. Instead all you have taught him is to blow up, then drag someone's name through the mud on the internet. That is not what a reponsible and mature adult does.
I never told you you needed to appogize to "him", as you put it. He clearly was at fault in the accident. How you handled it was wrong when dealing with a child and growing racer. That is all I am saying here. Be the adult.
No child should ever have to take bull from an adult.
I have been hit on the track, and broke many times. Even when I park my car in the corner out of the way. I get mad. I may even tell the individual to watch a bit closer. But when I put my car on the track I realize that it may or will get broke and I accept that responsibility.
Jimbo, I do feel bad that your car was destroyed and I am not trying to take away from that. It sucks. All I am saying is as an adult and role model for young racers, you are way off the mark.
I will think of you when I am racing. I will think of you when I get back home and take a look through my bin of parts for anything I could help out with.
Unfortunately though, I will think of you whenever I see an adult pushing around a kid.
*okay, that was a cheap shot.